So I'm getting married in about 9 months, and naturally enough my fiancee wants to lose weight before the wedding. I'm having the hardest time convincing her that lifting weights will help her trim down, since she only seems to like the treadmill. I'm making a little progress, since she has agreed to do 10 squats each trip to the gym, but obviously that won't do it. I don't want to keep nagging her to lift weights without something to back it up.
I need ideas to help me get her away from the cardio machines once in a while. Anyone have any short and sweet explanations for why it would be beneficial for her?
Cheers, thanks guys.
Pictures are great but they can also be discouraging if the women is a little insecure (in my experience, the majority are).
Ask her about shape. Ask her what kind of shape she wants. Generally different women have a different idea of what they want. Then explain the difference between losing "weight" and losing "fat", especially noting that she could lose a bunch of weight and end up looking exactly the same, so despite the weight loss, her shape would be the same and that's not what she wants. Then explain that her muscle mass is her shape. Body fat, or lack of, allows your shape to become visible. Therefore, it's important to work on your shape by training your muscles, which also helps ensure you actually lose "fat" and not a combination of muscle and fat.
You can even use horrible words like, "toning" if you want. As long as she understands.
Other things I throw in - a stronger muscle burns more calories than a weaker muscle. I tell people muscles are like sponges that soak up calories.
I also throw in other benefits like strength training and bone/joint health (women are more at risk here), insulin sensitivity, self confidence, and just generally feeling awesome.
I constantly go on about performance - train with purpose, train to get better, don't just aimlessly get out of breath on a hamster wheel. Set some performance goals. For example - a full push up from the floor, or 10 if she can already do a few. A pull up, body weight squat, deadlift, etc - anything. Ever seen an overweight female doing pull ups? I've not.
Also, worth noting, you're at a real disadvantage trying to convince her because you are her fiancé, so try and not let it turn into an argument. This is amazingly common - couples training together in the gym then end up hating each other. I've seen some very entertaining arguments in my gym.