I just wrote half an article, but then I read your message again and I got the point that you have problems with the final stance holding the bar on your shoulders. Am I right?
If it's a flexibility issue you're probably doing the clean wrong. That's my point of view.
Can you do front squats? If not, then you may have a problem. The pressure shouldn't be on your wrist however. When I do cleans, I rotate/bring my shoulders onward for the bar to rest on, and just keep it stable with my wrists. It shouldn't matter that much how high your elbows actually are, as it is enough to just lift you arms somewhere between 45 and 90 degrees or so.
Anyway, the clean movement starts like a deadlift, you lift the bar to knee-level, and gain momentum for the rest of the lift. After knees the movement of the bar should be very fast, and the point is to lift the bar using your whole body and upper body strength and get under the bar. I'd say the most important part of the clean is to get under the bar. That's why it shouldn't be about flexibility of arms. You just lock the bar to your shoulders/sternum/claviculae level, and squat the weight up.
The weight doesn't really drop that bad if you get under the bar smoothly and fast, you don't let the bar drop on your shoulders, nor you don't toss it with your arms there either. But yeah, maybe with heavier weights it could feel a bit more on your shoulders the next day.
Thanks for the reply. Really appreciate it.
From scrutinizing my own form in the mirror, I'm as sure as I can be without having someone more experienced look at it that I got the form down up until the part where you 'fling' the bar and grab it with your shoulders.
You were correct. What I am specifically referring to is that when you bend your arms so that 'your fingers touch your shoulders', I can't really 'go far enough' to actually hold the bar when it rests on my shoulders. I can touch my shoulders with my fingers that way, slightly, but I can feel the tension in my wrists as I hold the position.
As for front squats; I have hardly ever tried them. When I do them, I cross my hands(AFAIK that is acceptable alternate form).
Maybe I should just wait with the cleans until my right wrist is fully healed and then find out whether or not I can do it. And then try it with an unloaded bar.
At any rate, thanks for your advice. I'll try to keep it in mind the next time I do it, whether it is before or after my wrist is fully functional.