Some random thoughts of mine on your comments:
1 - At 6'3" and 190-195 pounds, you don't have a weight problem. Your BMI
is below 25, which is good for an untrained individual. The weight might not be spread across your body the way you would prefer, but exercise will change that.
2 - I've always thought of Starr's 5x5 routines as being geared rowards the intermediate to advanced lifter. For beginners, I recommend routines like this one
. Most beginners use split routines as a means to avoid doing heavy grunt exercises like squats and deadlifts in favor of a lot of isolation work like bicep curls.
3 - When I started out years ago, I spent the first three months bouncing from routine to routine, and wound up accomplishing very little. Your switching from Starr's routine to a 3 way split so quickly is not a good sign.
4 - No weight training program can compensate for a poor diet. There is no need to endanger your marriage by following an ultra-strict pre-contest bodybuilder diet, but if you eat a lot of junk you'll hinder your progress.
5 - Whey supplements will make you fatter only if they, added to the rest of your diet, results in a calorie surplus. Whey powder is an excellent way to get high quality protein without the fat of most meats and dairy products. How much weight you lift during exercise isn't as important as how many calories you burn during exercise as far as weight gain/loss is concerned.
6 - Free weights aren't as dangerous as some people think, but exercising with them is not without risk. If you're working out in a home gym, be sure someone is within earshot should something go wrong.
Good luck, and happy training.