He really shouldn't be drinking the milk at all, but I already told him that. Unsweetened or splenda sweetened soy is the way to go if you have to drink milk.
The saturated fat in dairy actually has some benefits. Like I was saying before there are different types of saturated fat.
http://www.westonaprice.org/knowyourfat ... t_fat.html
Really if you are going to consume 11 grams of lactose (which you really shouldn't), you might as well get some myristic acid along with it.
More interesting information on fat.
This one is rather intersting too.
Remember insulin stores fat and plays a part in cholesterol synthesis. Not to mention some food has more overhead then others so to speak.