I need to rant, and this seems like a nice place to do it.
I got asked the following question from my g/fs friend.
"what will tone my thighs best- walking, jogging, the stepper, or the cross trainer, because i've been doing them all and nothings working".
I'm starting to develop a real conscience for these people. It's one thing to say, "stop eating crap and binge drinking then!", and then criticise the use of the word 'tone', but, sometimes 'people that know better' can forget that 'other people', even though they try, really don't know any better. When they try and do somethign about it, they naturally turn to aerobic exercise because that's what they're told. When they diet, they either starv themselves, or try somekind of fad diet, or go on weight watchers or go to diet classes or something because that's what they're told.
This same girl has been doing exercise, all aerobic, AND, she's been attending diet classes. I think, a year+ ago, I would of scoffed at it, but I just feel sorry for her (and people like her). Think about it - doing exercise AND going to diet classes. What else can she do? She's made the effort to do something, and she's trying to learn about diet through these classes and follow the guidelines in these classes. What does she get told? Well, I don't know all the details, but I do know that Friday is a "non-eating day". WTF!!!!!! Plus all the aerobic crap. Her diet instructor or whatever the hell you call them should be shot. In my experience with these diet class people, it's normally someone who's went from about 350lbs to about 250lbs, and still look fat - smaller versions of their former selfs, and this is what makes them a pro. 100lbs of weight loss is impresive by any means, but 100lbs of weight loss when your, like 200lbs overweight, whilst impressive, only REALLY means your half way there. Great, you stopped eating takeaways ever night, stopped drinking so much every night, stopped eating countless amount sof crap and started having 3 square meals per day like your mother always told you to. Well done. Doesn't REALLY give you the right to take people under your bingo wings, does it? I'm sure there's good classes out there but these types are popping up a lot.
So, at the end of the day, you're left with a girl who is obviously unhappy with herself and is obviously putting in the effort (doing what she's told) and is obviously getting no where. It's no wonder it's so hard to talk some sense into them, when they've been filled with so much crap already. Someone who's been lied to all their life generally has an issue trusting people. And overweight people who genuinely put in the effort but get told a lot of rubbish and don't get anywhere will generally doubt most other things they're told, eventually. There's also no denying that some overwight people are clearly searching for quick fixes and other things that mean they don't need to change their lifestyle, but you need to have sympathy for the people that do try, but just get led down the wrong path.
'Fat loss' was never really my thing, but i'm getting more and more interested in it. I think it's because, "lifting heavy things" can and should be part of the solution. But, there's also a big market for it, and, you can genuinely help a lot of people, and I don't actually think it's all that complicated - 'bodybuilding type' goals aside, which are obviously different ball games.
Encase anyone's interested and/or read this far, I replied "you're asking the wrong questions. Come down to our house on Friday for dinner and i'll educate you a little". I planned on cooking a nice meal from Precision Nutrition - all of which are very tastey, and are/can be eaten as part of a fat loss plan. I thought it would be a good way to provide an insight. This is when I found out Friday is a non-eating day - so she can't/won't have dinner with us. It's a crazy world we're living in.
* deep breath *