This is an odd post, but wtf is going on with society? This fat acceptance is driving me crazy! More and more people are either apathetic or think that they cant beat it.
It was like watching a train crash... could not stop. But, she says that you cant control it... not your fault... BLAH BLAH BLAH.
Obesity problem is growing.
I believe most don't lose weight and keep it off for the following reasons.
1) They believe you can't do anything about it.
2) They don't care.
3) They don't know what to do. They repeatedly try the wrong thing, become frustrated and quite trying.
4) They lose some weight, hit a plateau, and give up.
5) They lose the weight then go back to their old ways.
Am I crazy for thinking that being overweight (not medically obese with thyroid disorders) is totally controllable?
Unless someone has a medical problem, some degree of weight loss success is obtainable.
I've seen this first hand. My ex-wife's weight got up to 290 lbs.
She went through some of the phases that I listed above. She would lose weight then go back to her old ways. She would hit a plateau and then quit. Then she finally gave up and ended up gaining even more weight.
However, things changed a few years ago. She went to Weight Watchers and started an exercise program. I helped her and continue to help her with her diet and exercise program.
In two years, she lost 120 lbs. She not thin but but she look great. (I like buxom women with some meat on their bones. I don't find obese women attractive).
The good news is that you and I will NOT be fighting over the same woman...you take the thin one and I'll take the buxom one...:)
Am I so wrong for finding healthy looking people attractive?
No, you're not wrong. Physical attaction is what usually draws us to the other person. A great book on this is His Needs, Her Needs
The book goes into our 5 basic needs. As you might have guessed, mens and womens needs are different. More like upside down.
As the book states when marriages/relationships DON"t meet those needs, "People wander into affairs with astonishing regularity, in spite of whatever strong moral or religious convictions they may hold."
To me is like shopping. If you aren't getting what you need at one store, you'll shop someplace that has what you need.
Makes you wonder if Tiger Woods wife was meeting his needs or if he was meeting hers. It's a two way street.
The book devotes a chapter to "Attraction". So, your "finding healhty people attractive" is normal.
If being overweight was so impossible to control, why is it that America is getting fatter, while humans in general do not?
Most overweight people have to work at it every day. Most won't do that.
Also, we are a fast food nation. It easy to eat junk...and that junk is tasty and addivtive. I have a addiction for Dr Pepper. I can't keep it in the house.
We do less and less manual labor. I am sure other can add to the list.
My little cousin is so gigantic.... his mother just gives him more soda and pizza and chips... And, he laughs at me when I eat my spinach. I pity the boy, because he will eventually have to undo every extra calorie, or suffer the consequences.
Sadly, I am guilty of that. When my son was small I allowed him to eat too much junk food. Shame on me!
He inherited his mother's genetics. He gained up to 220 lbs.
However, he changed his life style. He now weights about 175 lbs, he lost 45 lbs!
He defines exercise as physical torture...something he will NEVER do.
He only does "fun things". Those "fun things" are competitive Swing Dancing (spening hour dancing) and riding his bike all over Seattle.
According to him that's NOT exercise/physical torture. lol.
This being us to a great point. Many people like my son see exercise as physical torture.
With these individuals you want to help them find a physical "fun thing" they enjoy...like gardening, hiking, biking, dancing, etc.
His girl friend (who live with him) is into healthy eating...so, that helped him.
Maybe I am way off...
I don't think so. However, in seeing this first hand, I now have some compassion for obese individuals.
At the same time (like you), I am frustrated with those who don't care or don't try.