The support is nice, even touching
I suspect a log will influence my choices, which, might be a good thing for results, but less so for information. Still, the challenge of getting enough protein without excessive calories will be there
I'm sure we have plenty of info here, that's not a good excuse for me. A thread with more centralized info couldn't hurt though, you've given much help already.
In a sentence, if you could help me stop using food to asociate with happiness in my mariage. Wife and I got fat together, ate out a lot late, went to Denny's drank alcohol, pig out often, and basically, even as I've come out of the doldrums days, with a better job, working out, better atiitude, she is still stuck in a rut. And eating together still provides that connection. She tells me "don't worry about me, eat what you want". But, she's happier when we share our meals together and eat out, or like the good ole days. I think she feels I'm leaving her behind and she is holding us back (so subconsciously I hold back, i.e. don't achieve all I can be). Now, I know, that none of us can thrive in this codependent relationship. I have to get back to showing the leadership I started at the end of '09, and that includes consistantly eating proper. If wife comes along, great, if not, maybe we'll have a tough going, but if I suck, then we dont have as chance.
In relevant summary, I think I'm better on the "what to eat" and less solid on the "emotional/mental motivation". I still need to read the Warrior Diet, but for sure, cycling carbs/calories to limit the majority to small windows fits me fine. I like the idea of a large feast, and can go hours with mini snacks, piece of fruit, small serving of yogurt, small can of tuna, type snacks. I need to read more.
Take this labor day weekend as we vist our parents
But thats no good when we go to Cracker Barrel after funeral with my inlaws and only the wife and I get dessert. Me Berry Cobbler, hey its fruit!, she coca cola chocoate cake. Both were ala mode, obviously. The skinny relatives just watched, surely thinking "well, that's why you two are fat". For meal, I have a low carb grilled pot roast w/mushroom and onion (gravy was pan juices), turnip greens, and two other veg, I can remember, maybe corn, not casserols or syrupy apples, nothing like that. So, I made decent choice, then blow it with dessert. (and too many corn muffins)
Next night, out with Dad and his girlfriend. I suggest appetizers, fried and/or covered with sweet sauces. Entree I have grilled salmon, with mix steamed veg, and brown rice. Then, I'm the only one getting dessert.
Actually, my sweet tooth is worse than ever. Either that, or it seems that way because whereas I used to always eat poorly, now its more localized.
I've lost 40 lbs before putting 20 back on, it's a bit eye opener, disheartening. A little cheating leads to this - more cheating, and as if my body says "whooo, we were wondering if you were going to try to lose all this fat, thank goodness. Now, we have the old Clint back, lets get some ince cream!"
ETA: The timing of the weight gain came after I asked "Should I get stronger or lose fat" and some said "Do both, Fatty" but I listened more to those that said "Get Stronger, Pussy". I am shocked, seriously, at how much faster the weight went back on, compared to how long it took the first time.
food log, I'll give it a consideration
(OP seems to have left the tread, so I used this chance to vent)