What I would really love is to have some females' weight lifting programas along with their photos, so I could say to myself, ok- if I train like her my arms/legs will look similar.
Generally weight lifting programs are progressive, that is, you start light and add weight over time. Weight can be added quickly at first, and then more slowly.
I know that all depends etc but rough ball parks. I would rather not have the 1 rep max load numbers because I never lift weights that way- I think it is dangerous.
I lift weight 4x/week and do a 1 rep max load about 2-3 times/year. dangerous? Not if you use the same form as the hundreds of other reps done during the year.
It also depends on how hard you push. if you squat X pounds on a max effort, and it is very very tough, and you decide to add more weight to chase a higher number, that is definitely more dangerous than saying, "That x pounds was good enough for me."
So for example, how strong really should my biceps be.? 3 sets of 10 reps of dumbell curls with what, 10 pounds, 25 pounds, 100 pounds? I have no idea.
Start with what you can do. Then add weight. When you look like the picture, it's heavy enough.