you sound dedicated to the success of your team which is highly admirable, maybe you should delegate and become a leaderless team where everyone has their turn of making suggestions for tactics and directing play, that should encourage everyone else to achieve your high level of ability and confidence.
a team is exactly that and requires every member to be equal in the confidence of their abilities and decisions, this usually comes through every team member having a go at being a leader themselves.
"a good leader doesnt mind being led" my own quote developed from "instructing" team building and team challenge at an outdoor centre.
give people a chance to let their strengths show through and get the recognition they / everyone requires for confidence and individual leadership within a team of leaders, everyone knows what the goal is ( to win ) and how to do it ( get baskets ) let them get on with it and take a step back to let everyone else shine through, criticism and punishment might get you instant focus and determination but praise and having a laugh will get you long term results, when you are stressed about messing up it may snowball, laugh at your mistakes you shall learn from them too.
you are an eloquent writer and express yourself clearly and succinctly you have obviously had practice at speaking to a crowd or presenting your feelings and emotions about things, this gets easier each time you do it! people warm to and admire someone who has the confidence to luagh at themself as it makes them feel more comfortable and better able to talk about themself.
have faith padawan....
or play more bball together, what do you think?
I'm a basketball player. I started playing pretty seriously a few years ago, and I have worked very hard to improve over the past years, and now I'm a fairly high level player. However, the team I currently play for is very inexperienced and, to put it bluntly, not very good.
As a result, there is pressure on me as a leader and also pressure to perform well because I played very well in our first few games of the season. This kind of pressure was never there before, and I am having a hard time accepting my leadership role and have come to expect very high performance from myself at all times. I know on one level that this isn't practical, yet I don't know how set realistic goals.
The other problem I have is that I am very, very competitive. I accept that with the team I am on, it is unlikely that we will win very many games. I have accepted that, but I also find losing very difficult to deal with, and I blame myself, unfairly, for the losses because I feel like I should have been able to perform at a higher level. As I said, I expect a lot of myself, and I am not able to achieve up to my standards. I always feel like I could have done more.
My coaches talk to me about poise, mental toughness and focus, because I tend to lose control emotionally and get frustrated by my teammates and myself. I'm just wondering what advice anyone could give me on becoming more in control of my emotions, and being able to increase my mental toughness.