Thought you'd never ask.
Mine is FDR capitalism -- free but regulated.
Start with deload week. That is play week. Start light, sets of 8, add weight until it just about starts being work. Quit here, it's deload week.
Next week (This would be 5+ on 5/3/1) take highest weight from last week for a set of 10. Add weight and do 10's until you cannot do 10's. Make big jumps if things seem silly, go back down if you don't get 3 sets. Today I did this for Incline Press:
125: 8 +1 really sloppy one getting it back into the rack
Next week (This would be 3+ on 5/3/1) take last week's max weight for 10 and try to get 3x10. Today you will find out if you mean it. You can do far more than you think you can. Man it up and do the reps.
Next week try to add 5 or 10 (or 1 or 20 depending on the exercise) and do 3x10 again. If you made it last week because you are not a quitting lazy-ass all-talk gym rat wannabe, then you can make it this week.
When it doubt, if you're making the reps add more weight. No BS about "this is a marathon not a sprint." You need maximum benefit from the max weight you can do with nice form right up to the last rep or so. If you get lazy and do a bad rep don't be an a**hole and say, "Oh I'm fatiguing I should stop." F*ck that. Recommit mentally to good form and do another rep -- then realize you are not a loser after all and finish the set. For lower body especially, like trap bar deadlifts, if you are not suffering then you need to add weight. Upper body stuff is different, when the muscle fatigues you fail and that's it. The idea is to get right up against that fail point and push it with all you got.
Oscar, in your case, read a bunch of Wendler articles, especially the ones where he calls you names like "vag" and "pussy". Though it might not be the language of the Academy, he is making a very important point, he's saying it's about being willing to do the work. As long as you "have a lot of quit" in you no set/rep scheme will ever work.