Regarding lifting, I have one or two friends who listen to me prattle on, a couple that want to pull everything I say apart and a few more who want to discuss it. I have noticed lately that the ones who want to pull it apart seem to do so less and are either falling into the listening category or even the discussion category. I don't know why that happened, can only guess that they have seen what i've done/talked about "work" and changed their tune.
One of my friends has been going to the gym to lift for over a decade (a council owned gym - machines, dumbbells, no barbell - in fact he thinks barbells are a waste of time because you can lift more weight on a machine
) and has made zero visible
progress. When I first got into lifting he would talk about the stuff he did until he ran out of breath - he was "all about the chest". Literally, did his chest three or four times a week. Didn't like to do his back, didn't like to do his legs, didn't like to do anything but his breasts! He always used machines, occasionally dumbbells (but only then for bicep curls). I always said he should balance his routine out and work on all areas but he simply wasnt interested. I took it to mean he didnt buy into what I was saying, making him think "I've been doing this a decade, what does he know about it?".
Anyway, I managed to do a 160kg Squat a few months ago and was telling him about it one night when we (and our wives) had gone to the cinema, he says: "160kg isnt a lot of weight for a squat you know!". I replied; "Are you talking about a barbell squat, a smith machine squat or a leg press?". He says: "It doesnt matter, it's all the same weight. 160kg is 160kg. I push 160kg on a leg press easily". I laughed, stating: "Ok, on Saturday we're going to go to my gym and we're going to put a 160kg barbell on your back and you're going to try and Squat it... and when it crushes you and ruins your life we'll hear no more about a leg press being the same as a squat."
This guy knows what I have been doing has been working - the diet, the lifts, the full package; but instead of discussing what I do he continues to tell me what I should be doing, despite the fact that his techniques have never delivered the results he wants. He tells me that protein doesnt work, tells me his diet of largely bread is fine. I dont want to tell him to do anything in particular, I just want to tell him to try something different for a change. That and to focus on his diet. He wont listen. His program is litteraly that - programmed. How could he be wrong? How could he have spent over ten years of trial and error, making mistakes but learning nothing? Yes, time under the bar is the best teacher but never underestimate the stupidity of human beings!